Divorced, petite professional with no kids(regret), lively, not bad looking and most importantly, very young at heart :-). I am self-reliant for the most part as there isn't a strong shoulder for me to lean on. I would like to find those lonely/willing souls out there for friendship, support and so ...
Thanks for your reply. As I said before, I do think of my mom every day & talk to her silently, many times feeling really down. I buy fresh flowers every week or so and place them by her photo in my living room(my way of remembering her). Yet I would like to remember her in a more formal, proper ways on the important dates. I want to follow the practice most of the Chinese with traditional values would follow. My heart tells me that she would have liked it... So please help.
Actually from what you described, I feel you've done quite well in remembering her. I think your mom must be very happy that she is in your heart all the tiime.
you have difficulties of understanding in Chinese, I will attempt to put them in English. Let me know if I can be more help to you. 如果妳想在家裹供養母親.方法如下:
所需用品:香(種類不拘)‧,金泊紙(包數隨意)**,金泊紙不可用上有神像,也不可以用銀泊紙**.3 個小酒杯,酒 (可在liquid store 買$1-$2 的 small whiskey),杯子一個,生米(可用茶葉代替), 4 種 水果,煮熱的米飯,碗,筷.如果妳願意也可加幾盤小菜,糖果,餅乾之類. 2 個25分的錢幣.銅桶或鐵桶1個(燒金泊紙用)妳可在香燭店找到小的燒金泊紙的鐵桶.這些東西在99 Ranch Market 可以買到.
Dear Cathay:I have finished reading of your touching article with tears in my eyes. I am moved, indeed and I know how do you feel. I have been through the same ordeal and difficult times just same as you do. In less than 10 months, I lost my wife in August, 2006 and my father in May, 2007. My wife passed away because of breast cancer. She died in my arms with last breath. This is an endless pain in my life.
I quit my good job and bring flowers to Rose Hills Memorial Park (cemetery) everyday after her funeral sit beside her until I resume my work in July, 2007 (I go to Rose Hills every Saturdays and Sundays). Dear Cathay, I suggest you go to your mom's resting place on Ching-Ming Festival, Thanksgiving day and X'mas day to express your love and in memory of your beloved Mom. Time will heal the pain, of course, I know it's not easy. Talk to you later, my friend.
